National Post re- letters re rape and "partying" Feb 25

Letters to the editor

I was appalled by the letters to the editor about rape and women’s dress Kourtne Robinson thinks that without wearing a tube top with no bra, high heels and makeup she cannot ever have “fun” again. Larry Comeau believes that “wanting to party” has nothing to do with rape and apparently little to do with sexual activity. Both letters indicate a lack of understanding that “fun” doesn’t have to include sexual play or titillation. It is not necessary to remove your bra to have fun. A woman who dresses up without a bra etc. to have fun is saying that she wants some sexual stimulus, although certainly not unwanted attention or rape While women might “just want to party”, 50% of men go to parties “just to get laid”. They will look at these braless women and judge them not to be virgins, not to value chastity, and not to value sex only within marriage or a loving relationship. 95% of the time they will be correct. The women will get the attention that they want because they promise 50% of the men that, if they like the man, the man will get what he wants. Perhaps our society, both men and women must redefine what is “fun” and begin to understand that the object of “wanting to party” should be primarily to meet a mate for a loving, long term and committed relationship.